“Dwyane’s experience of having such a baby – while I could not – not only shattered my soul, but shattered it into a fine dust scattered in the wind.”
“In 2013, before we were married, Dwyane had a baby with another woman,” Gabrielle wrote. “It should go without saying that we were not in a good place at the time the baby was conceived. But we did much better when he finally told me about the pregnancy.”
To say I was devastated is to choose a word on a low shelf for comfort. There are people – strangers I never meet – who are upset that I have not spoken of this trauma before. I have no words, and even after inconsistency “Quantities of therapy I’m not sure I have now,” she added.
The experience particularly hit Gabrielle hard, as she was diagnosed with adenomyosis and “experienced more abuse than I could confidently count.” As the couple considered the surrogacy, she wrote, “Dwyane’s experience of having such a baby – while I could not – not only shattered my soul, but shattered it into fine dust blowing in the wind. scattered. “
“So much of what made the decision so difficult was that if I did not submit to a replacement station, I was convinced that I should leave Dwyane. Even if he did not want to, I had to find him someone who could give him what he wants. “
“But I love him. Every day he worked to forgive, and I chose that. And part of this journey to make peace with our love is also to make peace with ourselves. I had arrived at that without it. “Accepting terrible collisions in our lives – this Big Bang moment in our relationship that set our galaxy apart as we knew it – we would not be the individuals we wanted to be,” she continued.
In 2018, the couple welcomed their child, Kaavia, together with Surrogate. “I can never know if my failure to bear a child has a ceiling on the love my husband has for me,” Gabrielle wrote. “Yes, I’m Baby Mama number three, a label that should be an insult. But is the injury not that label but instead the asterisk next to my name on the record? The asterisk shows that achievement is in question.”
Last year, Dwyane himself spoke of what it was like to tell Gabrielle about having a child with another woman, kiss, “I had a child with someone else and I had to tell her. The hardest thing I ever did was tell the man and tell Gabrielle Union that I had a child with someone else.”
“If you hold something in which you know is coming out and you have this information and you know it will fuck someone’s life, what interests you, what you love, if it does not hurt you, then you are not human,” he said. he continued.
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