DEAR MISS MANERS: I’ve been looking for a decent job for a while with negative results.
In my last two interviews, interviewees said I was quiet – even more quiet, which was surprising.
I answered their questions first and followed up with my own. Second, when did “silent” people fail to perform well? In my experience, talkative chatters spend more time talking and less time working, but American business owners don’t seem to be able to see through the smoke.
I currently work in retail and handle the general public just fine – so customers leave happy. None of my clients complained that I was too quiet.
Please enlighten interviewers that just because someone is shy and thoughtful in their response does not mean they are unsuccessful.
FINE READER: Anyone with experience in the job market should agree with you that too many bosses don’t recognize it when it’s right in front of them, even if they know what they’re looking for.
This can be tragic for job seekers. Ms. Manners is not naive enough to think that fact alone would persuade bosses to do better. But perhaps they will benefit from a reminder that the consequences of choosing the wrong person can be unfortunate. This, of course, assumes that what bosses think they’re looking for isn’t itself misguided.
DEAR MISS MANERS: This has happened to me several times at various restaurants and I never know what to do. It’s about appetizers that come at different times.
For example, I was having dinner with three of my friends. Two of us ordered regular entrees, while the others ordered entree salads. The salads came first, but the other two entrees took another 15 minutes to arrive.
Should what’s served first go ahead and start eating? Should they expect everyone to be served? Should those still waiting tell the others to move on?
Does it make a difference if the first person to be served eats hot instead of cold? I know the restaurant has to serve the whole table at once, but what to do when that doesn’t happen?
FINE READER: You need to take matters into your own hands, as Ms. Manners believes that waiting for the restaurant to fix the problem will only cause everyone’s food to be at room temperature.
It’s up to those who don’t get food to tell the others to move on. This should be done after a short break to see if the waiter can catch up, regardless of the temperature of the food, room, restaurants or staff.
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